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Assumptions – easy way to get into trouble

‘When you assume, you make an ass out of U’.

I couldn’t agree more. I work in the property industry and the amount of times that so called professionals ”assume’ things is disgraceful. Agents are responsible for an asset worth hundreds of thousands of pounds and they have the audacity to ‘assume’ things!

To give an example, I worked with someone previously who had no qualifications in the industry so a lot of their knowledge was gained from others in the industry. However, his previous employers were those sharks you hear about so he picked up a number of bad habits, which all stem from assumptions. As an agent, we are the middle men between tenant and landlord so we communicate messages between the two. It is imperative that we communicate well so everything is clear and preferably in writing. Now, my colleague had developed the ability to please customers which was great until the deal was complete or close to completion. He used to make promises with one party and then try to get the other party to agree to it. The problem happens when the other party doesn’t agree to it. He basically shoots himself in the foot and ends up digging a bigger hole for himself by trying to sort out a mess he created by himself.

Thankfully, he’s improving himself and we are encouraging him to study the industry relevant qualification. But it makes me wonder why we assume things at all? In a sales environment, it is obviously to secure a deal of some type but what about in our personal lives?

When we are ill, we assume we will get better soon. We assume that we will be alive for the rest of the day, the rest of the week, month and year. How can we be so sure of something that we have no guarantee of? I think it’s an interesting ability we have. I belive it’s tied closely with positivity, hope and faith – all are aspects of human behaviour that makes us determined to reach a goal. The goal doesn’t have to be major. It can be a small one, such as ‘I’ll wake up at 6am tomorrow’.

Our ability to believe the immediate future is certain makes us human. The most we can do to improve the future (assuming that we live to see it) is to be the best we can be in the present.

Logic of women

Men and women. Perfect for each other in imperfect ways. This post will briefly explore women’s logic in relationships with my thoughts on it. I will post an article on men’s logic soon as our logic is completely different, but just as weird as women’s!

Let’s strip it back and look at humans. Our behaviours are determined by natural urges, aggression and influences from society. Men are seen as more aggressive (hunter-gatherer) and women are generally seen as the care giver. Obviously, roles have changed over time and these traditional values have changed drastically but for the purpose of this post, we’ll look at the behaviours of our ancestors.

Studies have shown that most women are attracted to men who are rich and strong. Going back to our ancestors, rich and strong men were those who had access to food and were successful at hunting. Makes sense that these values have been instilled in women over time.

Today’s men are not traditional in that sense. We don’t need to go out, find a chicken and kill it in order to survive. We just pop over to Tesco’s. However, women are still attracted to men who possess some of the qualities displayed by our ancestors. Unfortunately, some of the qualities are possessed by the ‘bad boy’ type and women seem to fall for this all the time.

Now to the weird women logic. I’ve heard countless of times women saying something like ‘I can change him’. Why do you want to change him? And change him into who? If she opened her eyes, the person she actually wants is Tom or Harry, but she wants Dick but she wants Dick to be like Harry or Tom. Why not just go for Tom or Harry? I will never understand that!

I think it comes down to excitement. As much as women say they want stability and a good man, they still seek the thrill they get from a bad boy. Everything would be fine but it just ends up with the woman being hurt and changing herself, rather than the man of her dreams changing himself.

Women, decide what you want from your man. Saying you want one thing but really wanting another is only going to hurt yourself at the end of the day. I guess as the old saying goes, ‘each to their own’.